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March 2014 entries

Hello, Spring!

What an amazing day! First, it was so sunny that my twin BFF bio teacher and I needed sunglasses on our walk today...and we discovered we have the same pair. Who saw that coming?

Then, I had a great musical practice, and Aidan is making a lot of progress in his character.

Finally, it was absolutely gorgeous out so Gingersnap and I headed to the park for a run. 4 miles later, she was a messy, muddy, happy pup.

It's the end of the day, snow is threatening this beautiful springtime, but at least we have had two gorgeous days to remind of what is ahead!

Hello, Spring!

Hello, Spring!

Hello, Spring!

Hello, Spring!

Hello, Spring!


Setting Boundaries

This weekend, Aidan had the opportunity to go to a friend's house for a play date. This particular friend is my favorite of Aidan's guy friends. He's polite, sympathetic, loving -- a great influence! Unfortunately, Aidan made a poor choice and decided that instead of finishing the chore he was assigned, he would let it slide. Then, to make matters worse, he talked back to us when we checked in to see how the room-cleaning was going. Guess who didn't go on that play date after all?

When I texted the friend's mom to explain what happened, she replied, "I completely understand. You have to stick to your guns. Not enough parents do that these days." And she is entirely right. Did I feel bad that I was punishing Aidan's friend by keeping Aidan from going to his house? Yes. Did I do the right thing by establishing a consequence for his behavior? Yes again.

I firmly believe that if we are fair and consistent when the kids are 3, 7, and 9, then they will be well-behaved and make decent decisions when they are 13, 17, and 19. By establishing boundaries, we are making an investment in our children's future, and in their character.

Does this mean I naively think that my kids will never screw up? Definitely not. See paragraph 1. Kids are kids. They make bad choices from time to time. But, I believe that I will not be the parent who says, "I just can't control my child. I try to ground him, but he just does whatever he wants." No. Way. I refuse to let that happen because I care too much about the adult my child is growing up to be.

Maybe you are thinking, "Ha! Wait and see...your kid is going to be a holy terror when he is a teenager!" I have too much experience with teenagers to believe that to be true. My students talk to me, they trust me, they respect me -- why? Because I treat them like young adults. Because they know I care. Because I establish consequences for their poor choices. If they wonder why I do #3, I point to #1 and #2.

Parents -- think of your child as an investment. Helping him become a responsible adult is far more important than keeping the peace by yielding to his demands.

Children -- know that we want the best for you, and if we punish you, it's because we know you can be a better version of yourself than you are at the moment.


Yet Another Outing

Tonight was the Broadway Dolls concert at the Community Arts Center in Williamsport. A group from the Montoursville theatre arts club went to the show. We had a lot of fun, much to the chagrin of those around us. But hey! When the Broadway dolls tell you to get up and dance, you get up and dance brother.

Yet Another Outing