Last week, I met with Aidan's teacher, who shared some concern for Aidan's behavior in class. I was surprised, to say the least, because Aidan tells me every day that he's doing great, he's never in trouble, he gets along with all his friends. Little did I know that he has been acting out for attention and has been taking more of Mrs. Jones's "reward tickets" than she told him to and has been fibbing about minor indiscretions in the classroom.
Aidan and I met with his teacher (Michael works 45 minutes away and couldn't be there for the meeting) and we had a productive discussion. Aidan admitted to not telling us the true story about his actions at school because he didn't want to get in trouble at home, too. I also learned that Aidan's not been cooperative in music class. (Seriously -- does this kid even KNOW who his parents are???)
That night, Michael and I had another good talk with Aidan. I think that he really understands what he did wrong; he knows he's disappointed people he cares about. He's such a sensitive kid -- I think he's really beating himself up too much about the whole thing. For example, this morning, when he and Gabrielle were kicking and fighting each other as they tried to get as close to me in bed as possible, I told them both to separate and go to their own rooms. About 5 minutes later, Aidan snuck back to apologize: "Momma, all I do is let people down." Poor thing!
Tonight, as we got the household ready to start a new week, I encouraged Aidan to sit down with us and set some goals for himself. He came up with four:
1. Tell the truth.
2. Be honest about tickets.
3. Give 100% in music class.
4. Follow directions.
I drew little check-mark boxes under each goal, for each day of the week. If Aidan is successful with his goals, he will earn his Pokemon cards back on Tuesday (for mid-week encouragement) and be able to use the Wii and Netflix on the weekend.
I am sure that he'll do well. He is a really good kid and he's earnest about trying to do better. Can't wait to see how this next week goes!