It was one of those "where is my camera when I need it" kind of days...I went to Bostley's to pick up Aidan and Gabrielle and when I arrived at Aidan's classroom, I couldn't immediately pick him out of the class. His teacher laughed and said, "I am not sure that you'll recognize him." Sure enough, there my little boy was in his "My Mom Rules" shirt, a big blue hat with a huge flower on it, and a skirt tied around his waist. He was playing with 3 girls dressed in princess costumes; they were cooking in the play kitchen.
I asked Aidan what he was doing and he replied, "I am playing princess with my friends." LOL. His teacher said that they told him to pick up his skirt when he was walking and he didn't know what they meant...naturally, since he doesn't wear skirts. :)
Later in the car, he admitted that he "looked more like a grandma than a princess" and that he dressed up because his "friends were". So...peer pressure to cross-dress at age 3 or natural curiosity in assuming a role different from his own? I go with the latter, and you better believe I used it as an example in class today.
Most of the kids saw it for what it was, innocent childish curiosity; although a few said, "Oh my gosh! What if he's gay??" Before I could even respond, another student piped up, "Give me a break...he's 3!" When I polled the class to see how many boys had played dress up with their girlfriends, a few admitted it (I think there are more out there). Another perspective was that Aidan is already a little womanizer, knowing not to waste time with the boys in the class.
Isn't it interesting how we are so quick to apply adult standards, especially of sexuality, to children who have yet to experience the sex hormones that puberty brings? This is a classic example of how we sexualize children, that is to say, how we apply adult feelings to kids. Aidan was simply playing with his friends, not caring if they were doing "boy" things or "girl" things, yet the tendency is worry about his sexuality, which is far from being a concern in his life. And truly, that is part of the problem wth our social mindset: we need to allow children to be children without using an adult standard to judge them by.